Suffering is caused by having an attachment to another person’s journey and evolution (ie the planet, humanity, friends, family, a partner, etc).
Suffering can also be caused by using our gifts externally on other people. This doesn’t work, and it hurts. High levels of empathic sensitivity kick in the moment we attach to another person’s journey, or their behavior, or if we judge their behavior.
The real practice is to only be attached to your own evolution, your own behavior, your own journey. The next step is to lift all of your gifts, tools, wisdom and mastery off everyone and everything and bring them back onto your own energetic fields.
When you hold all of your gifts on yourself and use them only for you, there is a sense of deep joy, gratitude and compassion for others.